My wife’s sister is getting married in August (hmmm, this reminds me – I need to apply leave from work).
So, the vicious cycle of doing the necessary preparation for the wedding has commenced and due to the close relationship, we somehow got involved too. But that is because we already run through our own wedding preparation last time and my sister in law is in dire need of “experts” for advice. She roped us in.
However since we are not running the show (her elder sister seem to be take a big cake here and seems to be dictating most of the arrangements), we could not sit in as the “project managers” for this event. So, despite of our advice to her to start things early, only thing that have been “confirmed” at this moment is the wedding date (wedding venue is still up in the air).
We suppose to be going for shopping for the wedding saree and other clothes somewhere in May but nothing have been done. After thinking about it, my wife and I decided to do our own shopping. That way, we will not be stuck with the “shopping for wedding clothes” group which is expected to be joining the bride in her shopping spree. For those who have joined a similar “committee” for shopping spree, a lot of time will be wasted arguing on the color and type of material alone and that too is for one saree. We do not want to go through that hassle.
Considering what we did for own wedding couple years ago, my wife was saying that it is a good thing that we decided to DIY our wedding preparations. It is easier for everyone. There were less people to satisfy (aunties in particular), easier to make decisions (just me and my wife has the final say) and most importantly, we were able to keep the cost down (no one influencing us to buy expensive items).
We did a lot of things ourselves – the only “external” help we got was from my mom who helped to arrange for the temple booking and priest and my dad and my uncle who took care of the catering & table & tents. The rest – from getting the invitation cards, delivering them (my car had a marathon run then), shopping for clothes, furniture for the room, photography, bridal services, jewelry, dinner hall arrangement, etc was done by me and my wife. And we managed to save a lot of money (especially on the jewelry) in the process.
So, for my sister in law’s wedding preparation – we are well equipped to give her some advice but because there an unofficial committee formed up in the background to handle the preparations, I foresee that this wedding preparation is going to a long task ahead. As I said, another 2 months to go and so far, only the dates have been confirmed. It will be tiring, I’m sure.
To be continued…